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Well, well, well.

I knew it was going to happen sooner or later, but now it's official: My baby cousin Sarah (14 years my junior) is engaged. She's been dating the guy for five years, so it's no surprise.

Anyway, the wedding is next June. I have plenty of time to work on a cross stitch sampler for the couple!

I'm very happy for her...but at the same time, I feel a little bit like a failure. I haven't even dated since I finished college 13 years ago. It's so hard to meet men in Deadricksburg, Virginia (my mom's name for it, not mine). All the guys I know are married or way too young for me.

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dalaire
Mar. 22nd, 2007 10:59 pm (UTC)
You should try it out here in wild 'n' wacky Nelson County. ;^) (I.e., I hear you. Oh, do I hear you. Except here, they're way older.)

Deadricksburg. LOL! My cousin and his wife live there. I can't wait to use that on one them. *g*

Congrats to your cousin! :^)
mollybarton
Mar. 22nd, 2007 11:08 pm (UTC)
You need to come visit them so we can have a mini meet up here!
dalaire
Mar. 22nd, 2007 11:14 pm (UTC)
I should! I'm off to DC seasonally. I really have no excuse for not taking a lunch break. :^)
huntingdon
Mar. 22nd, 2007 11:07 pm (UTC)
'All the guys I know are married or way too young for me.'

I wouldn't let that stop you ;)

Marriage isn't the only way to have a fulfilling life, fortunately. It seems that for everything that you miss out on, something else comes along.
mollybarton
Mar. 22nd, 2007 11:07 pm (UTC)
Yeah, except that nothing else HAS come along. :(
huntingdon
Mar. 22nd, 2007 11:11 pm (UTC)
Yet

If you'd been married with, say, kids - would you have as much time for baking and cross stitching? Would you have been able to go to choir and ring bells? There are probably loads of things you have done as a result of not being married and, although they may be individually quite small, they all add up. Who knows what the other path would have been like - it could have been terrible! The grass is not always greener on the other side.

What about the fire that burned your kids to death? Your first husband who was an alcoholic and was violent? Or the time you were mugged and they stole your wedding ring, leaving you with a broken arm and needing months of therapy?
mollybarton
Mar. 22nd, 2007 11:14 pm (UTC)
Good points...but what about rocking a sweet baby to sleep, growing old with my soul mate, having someone to come home to and wake up with? :p Two sides of every coin, ya know.

And I can always make time to bake and stitch. Kids need naps and go to school, hubbies like their poker nights and football on the tube.
huntingdon
Mar. 22nd, 2007 11:15 pm (UTC)
Well, if you're going to be optimistic... :p

I suppose the point is - your life is the way it is. Always strive, but don't regret what might have happened. You're in the here and now.
sjishere
Mar. 22nd, 2007 11:27 pm (UTC)
I agree with the starfish. Enjoy what you have in the here and now. If a relationship is in the cards for you enjoy that when it comes a long. We never really know what life is going to swing our way so just remember to enjoy what you have and if you really want something bad enough then be proactive and do something about it.

Best wishes!
crusherdisciple
Mar. 23rd, 2007 12:22 am (UTC)
LOL. The first time I read this I thought you meant that your cousin was 145 years old.

I must've really gotten pool water in my contacts.
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